As summer is coming to a close (at least month-wise although not weather-wise for most of us), it’s a good time to re-group, re-assess, re-align ourselves as we move into the last 4 months of the year. One thing we need in order to do this is Clarity – a sometimes elusive little thing, usually when we feel we need it most. I’ve noticed that there are 3 behaviors that tempt & block us when we want more Clarity about something. Come and explore these with me and discover what you can do instead in order to turn this into a tool that is within your reach at any moment.
So, usually when we are wanting to make a decision about something, to find a way forward, to solve a problem or challenge, our first instinct is to figure things out and as quickly as possible. Let’s face it, when we are unclear about a next step, we usually aren’t the most patient. It can feel uncomfortable when we don’t yet know and so most of us jump right into solving mode.
So, what can you do instead? Well, you have some options: you might like to explore alternatives or research (little mind LOVES this since it feels quite productive). And I’d say the most useful behavior here might be the one that most people avoid like the plague: sitting in the discomfort.
I know that doesn’t feel so fun, but it’s certainly something that gets easier with practice. The discomfort can teach us too – it is actually a powerful teacher. It’s there for a reason. It can help us discover what we’re afraid of, what is most important to us etc. As we sit with it without trying to resist or figure things out, it lessens. And when Clarity is ready, shel’ll come find you. I guarantee that if you experiment with a bit of discomfort, you will come a long way with beautiful Clarity.
Behavior #2: Should I, Shouldn’t I, Should I, Shouldn’t I….?
Another common behavior when we’re looking for clarity is the constant back and forth – we analyze and analyze until our thoughts get so confused, we have no idea what we think or how we feel or what our next step might be. Have you ever tried to make a decision from THIS place? It’s impossible, isn’t it? Our poor little mind is so cluttered, even IT (the ultimate thinker) is exhausted.
And as with everything else, it’s up to you to find the best clarity formula for you. Even here, there isn’t one magic answer. The more you tap into your own uniqueness, the more you relax and don’t try to force things, the more ease you’ll discover with getting Clarity. And I wish you many fun adventures & discoveries on your Clarity Quest.