One of the first steps in getting out of the ‘Just Fines’ is to get really clear about what you value in life. Sometimes you know what you value. For example, Family, might be an important value for you. And you spend a lot of your time with your family–connecting with them and learning and growing together. That IS a value and if this is the case for you, it sounds like you live by this value.
But it could be that you THINK you value something. Say, you always thought a “career” was important to you–moving up the career ladder into management. And then as you advance, you feel less and less excited about your job, you have less energy and less motivation. That could very well be that career advancement is not a value of yours. Maybe it is connection, or creativity or providing support–something you had more of when you first started out in your career.
So if you are in the ‘just fines’, feeling stuck and unfulfilled, looking at what you REALLY value is and excellent first step. This isn’t something you necessarily do in one sitting. You might have seen those lists that Life Coaches love to give out (yep, even me!). Click here to see an example if you don’t know what I mean. These lists can definitely be helpful. They can also be overwhelming! If this list/exercise interests you in any way, give it a try! It’s a good way to get started.
But if it feels like too much for you, I’m with you. The first and second time I did this, I tried hard to complete it and I did eventually. The funny thing was I had NO idea which values I picked afterwards. So the approach I took was a bit different. Instead of doing this in one sitting, I had it in the back of the mind all the time. And as I worked with my coach, we identified these values more slowly. Each time I found one, I FELT it. It was like I could feel the word in my whole body and I KNEW it was a value.
So explore, experiment, see what comes up for you. When you have the 3 – 6 things that you TRULY value in life, you can put these in your travel bag. They are essential to you on your journey to the MORE Than Just Fine.